Little one got the jitters before their dental visit? You’re not alone. Many parents face the challenge of helping their tamariki overcome dental anxiety.

The good news is that, with the right approach, you can help make dental visits a positive part of your child’s healthcare journey.

Why Do Children Feel Anxious About the Dentist?

Children often feel anxious about dental visits because they’re venturing into unfamiliar territory. The unique sounds of dental equipment, strange-looking tools, and uncertainty about what might happen can feel overwhelming. Sometimes, they might have picked up on a parent’s own dental anxiety or heard less-than-positive stories from their mates at kindy.

Preparation: The Key to a Positive Experience

Here are some strategies you can use to take the fear out of your young one’s next dental appointment.

1. Play Pretend Dentist at Home

Turn your lounge into a mock dental surgery. Use a reclining chair and take turns being the dentist and patient with your child. Keep it light and playful:

  • Use a torch to count teeth
  • Make a game of opening wide and saying “Aaaaah”
  • Let them examine their favourite teddy’s teeth
  • Create pretend dental tools using everyday items

2. Read Books About Dental Visits

Pop down to your local library and grab some child-friendly books about visiting the dentist. Reading these together helps normalise the experience and gives your child a clear picture of what to expect.

3. Watch Kid-Friendly Videos

There are heaps of brilliant YouTube channels and shows featuring episodes about dental visits. These can help your child see that going to the dentist is a normal, positive experience.

During the Visit: Making It Fun

1. Bring Comfort Items

Let your child bring their favourite:

  • Soft toy for comfort
  • Blanket for security
  • Book to read in the waiting room
  • Music player with headphones (check with your dentist first)

2. Use Positive Language

Instead of saying:

  • “Don’t be scared” → Try “You’re being so brave!”
  • “It won’t hurt” → Try “The dentist will help keep your teeth strong”
  • “You have to go” → Try “Let’s go on a special tooth adventure!”

3. Reward System

Create a sticker chart or similar reward system. Each successful dental visit earns them a special treat (maybe not lollies though, eh?).

Tips for Different Age Groups

Preschoolers (2-5 years)

  • Keep explanations simple and positive
  • Use their favourite toys to demonstrate
  • Make up silly songs about brushing teeth
  • Practice counting teeth at home

Primary School Age (6-12 years)

  • Explain procedures in more detail
  • Let them ask questions
  • Share interesting facts about teeth
  • Give them some control by letting them choose their toothbrush colour or flavour of polish

Signs of Success

You’ll know your efforts are working when your child:

  • Talks about the dentist without showing fear
  • Willingly practices good oral hygiene at home
  • Looks forward to earning their dental visit reward
  • Shares positive stories about their experience with siblings or friends

When Extra Support For Dental Anxiety Is Needed

Sometimes, despite our best efforts, some children need additional support. That’s perfectly okay! We can discuss:

  • Additional familiarisation visits
  • Sedation options for complex procedures
  • Referral to a specialist paediatric dentist
  • Behaviour management techniques

Final Thoughts on Dental Anxiety

Remember, whānau, dental anxiety is common and completely normal. The key is to address it early and make each visit as positive as possible. With patience, creativity, and the right support, your child can develop a lifetime of positive associations with dental care.

Want to learn more about making dental visits easier for your tamariki? Give us a ring or pop in for a chat. We’re here to help create happy, healthy smiles for all our little patients.


Need to schedule a check-up for your little one? Contact Simply Dental today to book an appointment with our child-friendly dental team. Just call 0800 123 343 or book online here.